What is a therapeutic yoni massage?
Before diving into the specifics, let me first explain what the yoni represents. The word "yoni" carries rich and profound meanings, often translated as "sacred space" or the "source/origin of life." In anatomy, it encompasses the vulva, vagina, and womb. During a yoni massage, all of these areas may be involved, though I will share more about the specifics in a moment.
The difference between a therapeutic yoni massage and a regular yoni massage
A regular yoni massage often focuses on building sexual energy through stimulating pleasure centers. In contrast, a therapeutic yoni massage is not about arousal; instead, the focus is on healing and honouring the yoni, without intentional stimulation of the pleasure centers to build arousal.
What to expect during a session with a practitioner
A typical session begins with a phone or online check-in to discuss any needs or concerns before we meet in person.
The practitioner prepares a nurturing space, as the environment is crucial for relaxation. Rose petals, chocolate, roses, tea, candles, and essential oils create a serene and inviting atmosphere. We start by connecting with one another through meditation and heartfelt sharing about desires, boundaries, and any emotional or physical blockages. We also also offer a brief anatomy lesson to help you understand what we’ll explore during the session.
In some sessions there may be some yoni artwork and other somatic and nervous system regulation practices.
If it feels right and you are connected to your body and pelvis, and feel that you are feeling safe in your body, and are ready to continue with the yoni massage, we move to our massage altar (aka massage table).
We then begin a body massage using high-quality organic oils. The massage focuses on areas that connect to the yoni, such as the feet, lower back, abdomen, inner thighs, breasts, and jaw, all while encouraging deep, mindful breathing.
Once the body is fully relaxed, we check in and ask for permission to begin the yoni massage. With your consent, we use gloves and start by massaging the inner thighs and vulva. This is where the session becomes interactive, and we open a dialogue where you share what you’re feeling, and I share where I am massaging.
We explore sensations of pleasure, pressure, pain, and numbness. If there is pleasure, we honour it briefly; if there is pain, we work through it until it shifts or you feel ready to move on. If numbness is present, we stay with it to awaken sensation, or until you're ready to move forward.
If time allows, we may move to massage the vagina and cervix. Throughout, we offer insight into the anatomy of your yoni, helping you understand what areas you may want to explore further, either alone or with a partner. We again work through the sensations of pleasure pressure, pain and numbness.
The session lasts around three hours, with the option to extend if needed. Once complete, we close with a meditation and give you space to integrate the experience, followed by tea and an opportunity for reflection if you feel called to share.
My personal experiences
First experience of a tantric yoni massage
Early in my journey, I had a lover who introduced me to tantra and gave me yoni massages without any expectation in return. It was transformative to be touched with no goal of orgasm, but simply to explore the sensations present. This opened my eyes to new possibilities for healing and connection.
First therapeutic yoni massage from a practitioner
I once booked a session with a well-known female practitioner who helped me confront deep vaginal pain. The session was highly communicative, similar to how I structure my own. Though much of the experience was intense, even painful, it led to profound healing and helped me release what had been stored in my yoni for years. That experience reaffirmed my path.
A mystical journey through yoni massage
Another experience, which felt like a blend of my previous two, was a mystical journey. There was no talking, and no pain—just an expansive, cosmic experience. I felt as though I had melted into the universe, exploring the feminine energy beyond time and space. It was truly beautiful.
Why receive a yoni massage?
This is a question many people ask, especially given how intimate and vulnerable the experience is. For many, the call to receive a yoni massage is undeniable, though the reasons vary. Some are simply curious, others feel drawn to the practice without fully knowing why, and many believe it might hold the key to addressing their personal concerns. And for many, it does.
Yoni massage is deeply healing. I’ve witnessed incredible transformations, with clients releasing chronic pain or numbness in just one or two sessions. It speaks directly to the body and subconscious, offering an opportunity to honour and explore the yoni without expectation. It reconnects us to our bodies, awakens stagnant energy, and helps us redefine pleasure, intimacy, and sex on our own terms.
It’s a practice of forgiveness, of remembering, of rewriting our relationship with ourselves. It is, in every sense, a gift.
Why give yourself a yoni massage?
Giving ourself a yoni massage can be a deeply empowering and healing practice. Here are several reasons why someone might choose to engage in self-yoni massage:
A self-yoni massage allows you to reconnect with your body in a loving and intentional way. It creates a space for you to explore your own body without any external expectations, focusing purely on your own experience, sensations, and emotions. This process can foster a deeper sense of self-love and appreciation for your body.
The yoni holds emotional and energetic imprints of past experiences, and self-massage can help to release any stored pain, trauma, or blockages. By bringing awareness and presence to this area, it becomes possible to begin healing from past hurts and reconnect with a sense of safety and openness in your body.
By exploring your yoni in the privacy of your own space, you can tune into what feels good to you without feeling pressure or expectation from anyone else. It’s an opportunity to discover what types of touch, pressure, or movements resonate with you, and to understand your own pleasure more intimately.
For some, the yoni may feel numb or disconnected due to stress, trauma, or simply the demands of life. A self-yoni massage can help reawaken sensation by encouraging blood flow and energy movement, bringing awareness and sensitivity back into the area.
Self-yoni massage is a form of self-care that deepens intimacy with yourself. It is a time to tune into your body's needs, desires, and boundaries. As you learn more about your body’s responses, you also gain the confidence to communicate those insights to others, whether it’s with a partner or in other areas of your life.
The yoni is a powerful energetic center, and over time, emotional, physical, or energetic blockages can build up. Through gentle, mindful massage, you can release stagnant energy, which may leave you feeling more open, vibrant, and alive.
A self-yoni massage offers a practice of sexual sovereignty, where you are in complete control of your body and pleasure. It can be a ritual of self-honouring, where you take ownership of your sexual energy and well-being, fostering a sense of empowerment.
Some women find that yoni massage helps alleviate menstrual discomfort, reduce cramps, and promote better blood flow. It can also be a way to honor your womb space, bringing attention to the cyclical nature of your body and connecting with your menstrual health in a positive, nurturing way.
A yoni massage can be incredibly relaxing. Taking the time to connect with yourself through slow, intentional touch can release stress and tension, leaving you feeling grounded, centered, and more at ease.
In essence, giving yourself a yoni massage is a gift to your body, heart, and soul. It is an intimate and sacred practice that can bring deep healing, joy, and understanding of your own unique sexuality and femininity.
Feeling called?
If this practice resonates with you, I encourage you to trust that call. Just ensure that you find a practitioner who is professional and deeply respectful of this sacred work. You can find a list of practitioners here. If you would like to learn how to give yourself a yoni massage you can find more details on how to do so here.
With love,
Kiki
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